bonus question:
what does it mean to be too online anymore?
Sometimes I see people rant about people in a way that makes me believe they rarely interact with anyone face to face. Complete lack of anything positive to say about others, can only discuss topics that mean something to themselves, no ability to put themselves in someone else’s shoes.
…you’re describing Lemmy users, aren’t you?
Lemmy, reddit, 4chan… You find them all around. If you ask me, it’s likely caused by childhood isolation. Kids who grow up in a tense environment or with certain disorders tend to be outcasts when growing up and this creates a bitterness towards the world.
It feels unfair that there is a way most people behave towards one another that you can not be a part of. And it’s always easier to blame the environment than to look inward, find out what is causing these feelings and how to combat them. This is easily said when you’re past your 30s, but a 7 year old kid does not have the capacity to do this level of self reflection. So the effects of being an outcast compound. At some point it just becomes easier to direct your anger at faceless strangers and avoid any kind of real social situations. And this, of course, also compounds.
But that’s just my armchair psychology take on it. I have been somewhat of an outcast up until college (although not nearly as bad as some other kids I’ve met). College was an eye-opener for me due to the acceptance and positivity that was around everyone. I noticed quickly that the happiest folks where the ones who spoke mostly of things they liked. It’s a cliche for a reason, but a positive attitude breeds positivity.
When they seem to think it’s socially acceptable to scroll while hanging out with other people. I usually give the benefit of the doubt–“oh they’re responding to a text… right? oh damn, they are scrolling? and I’m sitting right here with them?”
yea, that’s not great
It isn’t?
You’re here.
A number of tells. Here’s my shortlist.
- Missing work, school, or other important obligations. Basically neglecting responsibilities.
- Preferring online interactions over face-to-face ones. On the phone all the time, even when with people.
- Anxious, irritable, or depressed when not online
- Losing track of time while online.
- Sleep deprived.
- Not sure how to answer when asked how much they’re online
Don’t ask how I know…
I dont know anymore, been here too long.
The question lacks depth of perspective. Human social needs are a fundamental part of life. The question lacks an understanding of the range of circumstances some human experience. Also, this perspective can be degrading and demeaning to someone such as myself that experiences nearly complete social isolation due to physical disability.
Sorry. This is why I included the bonus question:
what does it mean to be too online anymore?
This wasn’t included in jest but in recognition that for many now there isn’t any too online, it’s simply the means of socializing, among other things.
“Lol”
I’ve heard someone actually say “poggers” in a real person to person conversation.
Sometimes I hear a remark during a conversation that just seems out of place, but is said with the air of a proverb, and that’s how I know it’s a reference to something popular on social media and that for me is too online.
Sending me news links that are social media posts containing a link to a news article. Especially if it’s from Xitter: no way I’m logging into that place just to see replies.
It tells me that they didn’t read the article and that they expect me to care what the shit posters reacting to the headline think.
When by hearing their opinion on, say, gun-control I can then succesfully predict their stance on 15 other completely unrelated subjects.
That’s ridiculous. Acting like partisan issues that have been that way for 50 years are from spending time on the internet is pedantic. My grandparents spent no time on the internet and they still toed the line on partisan issues.
They keep rambling on about jeans and beans even though you stopped contributing to the conversation several minutes ago…
Take a jet in jeans to get your beans!
There can be a lot of reasons for that, but too much internet wouldn’t be my first idea. Histrionic tendencies, autism spectrum disorders, anxiety, etc.
When they are actively livestreaming themselves.
When they know who pedobear is
oh come on
Whatsapp Web: Synchronising Messages. %0… %1… %2…
They say au naur out loud
