Hello Internet,

I have trouble with any underwear I ever owned. I am wearing XXL or size 8 underwear but they tend to make me uncomfortable in different matters.

Waering loose Boxershorts is okay to my wiener but my balls are to free. Also they tend to crawl upwards during the day.

Tighter Shorts have a good appearance and are my main underwear. But I struggle with them as well: My thing turtles uncomfortably making me insane so I can pull it into position. Also, they tend to screw at the bottom after half an year.

Asking this within my circles only earns sarcastic comments or the experience isn’t shared. So I ask you: How do I determine the correct underwear for me and am I missing something? If you relate and have solved this issue, please recommend me some underwear.

// Edit:

Thank you for all the recommendations and input. I wasn’t aware of the pouch feature. Researched all suggested brands and:

Ordered from overseas:

  • SAXX
  • BN3TH

Currently not deliverable:

  • Step One

Lululemon does have a store in the city, so I will go there next week to try those on.

  • tabris@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    This is a message to all straight guys: buy gay underwear!

    Get yourself on Andrew Christian, Box, or Aussiebum, or any of the other underwear sites that cater to gay men. We have styles of underwear you wouldn’t believe. Yes there’ll be rainbows on a bunch of them, but there’s plenty that are more “reserved”.

    BUT, what we do have is a wide range of styles that are comfortable and sexy. We have underwear that separates your cock from your balls, which are really comfortable. We have styles that allow you to show off, or act demure. We have boxer shorts that have freaking pockets!

    And because the queer community largely (not always, but we’re working on it) accepts all body types, we even cater to larger guys who need a little more room in their smalls.

    Seriously boys, get yourself some sexy gay undies. Your junk, and your partners, will thank you.

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      Most people would consider that I wear “gay” underwear but I am a straight guy. In high school my girlfriend convinced me to wear a thong for her and it’s been thongs, g-strings, bikinis and panties since. If you are an athletic guy or get hot easily then women’s panties are also a good option as they tend to use lighter material that will stretch enough in the crotch for a guy.

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    My friend, it’s like searching for true love. You’re going to have to go out there and spend the money and try on different styles until you find the right one.

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        No recommendation is any good. Again, as with true love, what makes the heart of one man soar like an eagle will only throw another into the nadir of despair. Many a man rejoices to have their intimate areas caressed by Calvin Klein, but the same brand has strangled the gonads of the unfortunate few.

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          Yes but at least they are getting unique ideas and not just whatever ad bullshit the general internet feeds them.

          I also love the A+ prose.

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          1 month ago

          I follow your advice and will go into the city to shop for my underwear needs. You are absolutely right: My trunk differs from others. My requirements also change depending on my daily tasks. So I will address this explicitly!

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            1 month ago

            If it wasn’t underwear I’d advise you to ask a fellow of similar proportions what they like. It’s one thing to discuss jeans with a stranger irl and quite another to ask about intimate attire.

            Have a good day, internet stranger

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    1 month ago

    Boxer briefs are the best of both worlds. Not too tight like a regular brief underwear, not too loose like boxer shorts, and still has adequate ball support.

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      1 month ago

      After researching, I wear trunk-size retroshorts. You tip enabled me to query the internet. Thanks!

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    I did a thing a couple years ago where I dropped about $500 buying every style of boxer brief that looked appealing or had a strong fanbase. I tried saxx, Duluth, all citizens, meundies, bn3th, Mac Weldon, Lululemon, Tommy John, separatec, and probably a few others.

    All Citizens are my winner overall - the BN3TH are also really nice - I actually like their cuts and design better, but the materials don’t hold up nearly as well as the All Citizens. All Citizens are also much better value, IMO.

    For the All Citizens, I’m specifically talking about their Paradise Pocket boxer briefs. My legs are proportionally beefy in comparison to my waist, so it’s also nice that All Citizens offer an “Athletic Fit” option that keeps the legs from being overly tight. Just snug enough not to ride up without pinching or leaving a visible line visible through pants.

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    Nothing fancy here, but Hanes makes boxer briefs with a little pouch to give your boys a little extra support.

    I’m sure other brands offer a similar style, and may be even better, but I can at least vouch for the Hanes.

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    Am I the only person that actually wants an openable fly in their boxer-briefs? All these companies these days willing to make 2 distinct pockets for balls and shaft but won’t let me poke out for fresh air or a bathroom trip without having to deal with the waistband drive me nuts. My cock didn’t commit any crimes, I don’t want to force it into solitary confinement…

    The worst part is I found my perfect underwear several years back and the company has basically disappeared. They had a sort of soft and loose-ish horizontal fly that basically revolutionized my relationship with my crotch and I can’t find more :(

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      I relate to this so much. I hate when I get a pair with A grundle pouch but no gate to let it out. I’m not an over the top type of guy.

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        Something women can’t comprehend, our balls are actually lungs and our willy gots to breathe else suffer asphyxiation.

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        In the comfort and privacy of my own home, sometimes it is nice to feel a breeze twixt my nethers.

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    Get a meundies account for a month and order one of each style that you’re interested in. Then buy the style you like. Their model (subscription) sucks but their underwear is comfy

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    I have a similar issue that the package often goes backward, if that makes sense. It’s so uncomfortable if it happens after taking a seat in a meeting so you can’t fix it. My solution is to purchase boxer briefs from those fetish brands. They usually carry a product line that pushes up the package. I don’t need the visual appeal but the design groups everything to the front, so they have nowhere else to go. Then you just choose a size that the pouch is just big enough.

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      I feel you bro. When I am in an overall working outside this issue is unbearable. You can’t bow, knee or anything so I am constantly pulling to switch sizes depending on what I’m doing. I go fk nutz currently

  • Kevo@lemmy.world
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    Personally I use meundies long boxer briefs. They run a little small. I’m a big guy, 40-44 waist, usually for shirts I wear a 2x, 1x if it runs big. I need to go 3x in meindies and even then they’re a little tight, but not uncomfortably so.

    They last a while, I’ve had a few pairs for a few years now. I’d recommend joining the membership (no fees, cancel anytime, postpone anytime) and get a pair. If you like them, get a new pair every month or two. Till you fill out your closet.

    They’re a little pricey at close to $15 - $20 a pair, but they’re fun patterns and decent quality if you feel like splurging. But get ready for ads on every ither youtube video for the next year if you even go to their website

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      $20 each is pretty inexpensive, given that they aid my issues!

      I didn’t find a decent picture of the pouch on their website. So I skipped ordering one. It looks like their pouch is pretty narrow.

      I am similiar sized, I checked each brand for size recommendations before ordering.

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        I’m definitely not below average in that department, and I’m fine with it. It is a mostly spandex material, so it’ll stretch for days. The pouch doesn’t have any empty space for sure, but I’m never feeling compressed down there. And if you get the long boxer briefs, then you can pull the legs up a bit to get extra room for the jewels if you need it

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    MeUndies thongs for men are absolutely fantastic and my go to daily underwear. They take about a day to get used to but after you do you won’t want to wear anything else.

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    Have you tried boxer briefs? It’s the best of both worlds. There really aren’t that many different options, just try a few more and see how you feel.

    Try different brands as well, they all feel different. In addition to different brands, they each have different sub types based on what material used.

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      The recommendations in here use 90-95% viscose and rest elastan.

      I suspect some Soda & Scotch Trunks of mine use similiar materials.

      All my other trunks are 95% cotton and elastan or (free swining boxers) 100% cotton.